Ok, so on with the day
Well, last night was an interesting night. So much for wanting to watch my Sci-fi friday night. First off, I fell asleep in the middle of Atlantis, but trusty DVR was working so no worries there.
Then, I go upstairs but Vincent decides this is the time for my 'talk' with his father. Bit of background here. Divorced now for almost 11 years, its been a very rocky road. Probably a thousand times worse than when we were married. No child support, no contact with the kids for the past 4 years until just this summer when Vince contacted him. Great guy huh?
Anyways, Vince for his own reasons which I respect, needed contact with him. So he spent three weeks over the summer there and I managed to get through that. Well now its time for Vince's class ring. I told him that I couldn't afford it right now but in a few months we could. That of course wasn't what he wanted to hear, so he went to his father. And Mike promised him he'd take care of it. In case my children ever read this, I'll try to keep the comments to myself a bit, but in the end, they know what I feel about him. I don't believe it will happen. But I'm keeping my mouth shut in case it does because I don't want to be the bad guy.
But Mike and I finally talked and I told him that one, we are the adults here, Vincent should not have to be the go-between. I tried to be civil except for one brief comment about never claiming the children again on his tax returns. And of course, the other stuff about Katie came up. That was the real point of the conversation. She wants Brian to adopt her, and I want Mike to give his permission. She flat out hates Mike, she pretty much thinks he is scum and never wants anything to do with him. I told him if he actually would do this, he might have more of a chance in 10-15 years or whatever that she'd come to realize he actually DID something for her rather than to deny it and have us do it on our own when she is 14. See the law in Virginia says that once she is 14 and lived 5+ years with stepparent, we don't need the other parent's permission.
So we'll see.
I think the hardest part will be that Katie needs to assume Brian's last night from what I've read. We'll get further details on it as we go forward. I'm a bit torn. I don't want her to say no because of the name only issue, but in the end, I think I'd like her to take the name. Whats that quote from Romeo & Juliet? Whats in a name? A rose by any other name still smells as sweet?
Then, I go upstairs but Vincent decides this is the time for my 'talk' with his father. Bit of background here. Divorced now for almost 11 years, its been a very rocky road. Probably a thousand times worse than when we were married. No child support, no contact with the kids for the past 4 years until just this summer when Vince contacted him. Great guy huh?
Anyways, Vince for his own reasons which I respect, needed contact with him. So he spent three weeks over the summer there and I managed to get through that. Well now its time for Vince's class ring. I told him that I couldn't afford it right now but in a few months we could. That of course wasn't what he wanted to hear, so he went to his father. And Mike promised him he'd take care of it. In case my children ever read this, I'll try to keep the comments to myself a bit, but in the end, they know what I feel about him. I don't believe it will happen. But I'm keeping my mouth shut in case it does because I don't want to be the bad guy.
But Mike and I finally talked and I told him that one, we are the adults here, Vincent should not have to be the go-between. I tried to be civil except for one brief comment about never claiming the children again on his tax returns. And of course, the other stuff about Katie came up. That was the real point of the conversation. She wants Brian to adopt her, and I want Mike to give his permission. She flat out hates Mike, she pretty much thinks he is scum and never wants anything to do with him. I told him if he actually would do this, he might have more of a chance in 10-15 years or whatever that she'd come to realize he actually DID something for her rather than to deny it and have us do it on our own when she is 14. See the law in Virginia says that once she is 14 and lived 5+ years with stepparent, we don't need the other parent's permission.
So we'll see.
I think the hardest part will be that Katie needs to assume Brian's last night from what I've read. We'll get further details on it as we go forward. I'm a bit torn. I don't want her to say no because of the name only issue, but in the end, I think I'd like her to take the name. Whats that quote from Romeo & Juliet? Whats in a name? A rose by any other name still smells as sweet?
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